Last Saturday, Denisse was invited to her best friends brothers birthday party. Her friends name is Ashlyn and they are stuck to the hip in school, both little girls don't talk are very shy and they just get along just fine.
This is them on Saturday.
We've been to birthday parties before, just never the two of us. Not that her dad didn't want to go, I just wanted her to get used to us doing things seperately. Was I wrong? I mean the reality is her father and I are no longer together...and once he gets settled to his "alone" life, the time together will decrease, as expected, and well like it or not there will be times when he cant be there. I know, it was just a brithday party, but again, it was the first time it wasn't 3.
She asked why her daddy wasn't coming, we just said he had to stay home and take care of Oso. It was ok for her...but for me ...it was like I was taking away that experience from him and her. I know him and I don't really get along, but that's between us not her.
I felt guilty...I mean the birthday party went fine, Denisse enjoyed it, as did I ...and when we got home she spent 1/2 hour telling daddy what she did, and showing him the pictures, it was ok...it was a small step, I just hope the stuff he does miss out...is always because we both decided it was ok, and not because he slowly stopped caring about the small things...only time will tell I guess...in the mean time...
one day at a time...
chelitta
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